Second the discussion is now about the tone and just how he made that point.
I cant speak on the specific video as I did not watch it. However I can tell you that, in cases like this, getting the normies to agree with you is definetly important, and yes that does involve trying to be more diplomatic.
I mean is not just "our side" that is suffering the from "poor optics", if you step away from the social media ecochambers you are going to notice that the "trans activists" insessant screeching and harrasing is starting to catch up to them with public opinion turning against them slowly but surely.
So if you really want to get rid of their nonsense you need to convince the masses that your view is the sane view. At the end of the day people are dumb and sweet words can be very convincing to dumb people.
Lastly, while I agree with his point. I dont know just how much going to bat for this guy is worth. I mean rant tubers, specially anti-woke ones have the frustrating tendency of stabbing anime fans in the back.